“They have their desires fulfilled and they walk away without any accountability.
With polygamy it’s honest, it’s responsible and there’s nothing to hide.
Although there is no way of ensuring that a member is seeking a committed relationship, Chaiwala says his team verifies that emails and IDs are valid and the images sent are vetted for “decency.” He adds that the site is not for mail-order brides: seekers and their prospective partners should live in the same area, and their location is checked to make sure it matches their stated country., some members of the non-Muslim site are looking for more “polyamorous” relationships than conventional polygamy, in which one man may have two or more partners.“The notion of being multiply married is becoming more popular, especially around those who are nonmonogamous, and believe that our definitions of marriage don’t encompass the reality on the ground,” he says.
What’s the allure of polygamy in an age when multiple relationships are common, there are apps for cheating and few bat an eyelash over non-traditional living arrangements?
“Men can seek lots of relationships outside marriage — fast dating, strip clubs, visiting prostitutes,” says Chaiwala.
Azad Chaiwala founded Second to help Muslim men find exactly that, but he says he’s seeing growing demand from women, non-Muslims and people seeking polygamous love in monogamous lands — like Canada. “It’s for people who are serious about marriage.”So serious, in fact, that they want more of it.
In fact two, based in Britain, and set up to connect would-be polygamists with likely partners worldwide.“This is not a dating site,” says Azad Chaiwala, the founder of Second and
And that, Chaiwala says, includes about 3,600 Canadians as well as thousands of Britons, Americans, Australians and people from the Gulf States.Canada is now eighth on the country list of responders.And, he adds, the service is not exclusively for Muslims, although the original site, founded in 2014, was aimed at them.After interest swelled, he launched the second site, “open to everyone.”The sites are public, Chaiwala says, because they’re not an invitation to break the law, which in Western countries prohibits polygamy.Weddings would be performed by religious officials or in ceremonies among friends, without official registration.If the pair is in a committed relationship, “there’s no need for a piece of paper,” he says.