If this sort of negotiation doesn’t work, you may need to accept your parents’ rules, at least for the time being.In this case, it might help to think of ways to make your teen years as full and happy as possible without dating.Check out our tips on living single, and remember: you can always contact Kids Help Phone and reach a counsellor by phone at 1-800-668-6868 or when Live Chat is available.
That complicates things for you, but it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker.
Before you give up on your parents, try the following: Many families have expectations that teenagers won’t date or get into relationships until they are a certain age, or ready to get married.
The reasons for this may be religious, cultural, or personal.
For these families, the issue of dating just isn’t up for negotiation.
While some teens are happy not to date while they are in high school, others feel stressed or upset because they would like to date, but are not allowed to.
If you feel you are ready to date but can’t, it’s common to feel frustrated or angry.
The important thing is to know that your feelings are OK, and that even if there’s no easy way of changing your situation you can make the best of it for now. For example, you may want to try negotiating with your parents so that you can flirt or have more friends instead of dating: they may not let you go on a date, but will they let you go to a dance in a group if an adult is there?
If you want to date, but your parents won’t let you, you are in a difficult position.
Before you start sneaking off behind your parents’ backs (which will just make them trust you less), try to figure out if they are open to discussing it. Explore compromises that will make them feel more comfortable, such as going on group dates instead of one-on-one dates, being home at a certain time, or only going on dates with boys or girls they’ve met.